Use what you know/like or, if you have a few minutes, Google 'pressure points.' Rubbing the scalp, bottoms of feet and calves can completely change the experience.' “Use pressure point massage during your foreplay. Mind the foreplay: “Upgrade your foreplay!” says Chelsea Downs, co-founder of sex positive toy and gear company New York Toy Collective. To get yourself to that pleasure-centric space, try these ideas: I feel like unpacking my own queerphobia has really contributed to this experience and has allowed me to open up and truly enjoy the experience with partners that are inherently pleasure-centric because of our shared plight,” says writer Cheyenne Davis. “The thing I enjoy most is being able to bask in the vulnerability that comes with queer sex, especially with other fat, Black femmes such as myself. Sometimes the mere fact of not being a normie can be a turn-on. Of the many advantages of Sapphic Love-familiarity with the equipment, better post-sex wet spot situation and a lower chance of being subjected to earnest jackhammering-one of the best is that it's not subjected to the same old hetero-normative ideas of what you're “supposed” to be doing.
